Fork in the Road

28 08 2009

I am here once again.

In front of me, I see the fork in the road.

Fork in the Road

Fork in the Road

What to do?
Where to go?

Shall I go left?

Shall I go right?

How come life doesn’t come with a GPS?


Monogamous only by Choice

5 02 2009

I was chatting a while ago to someone close to me whose relationship had problems and survived, as she says.  They got married, had kids, husband had affairs (emphasize the “s”), almost separated, and survived.  She told me that even in their age, relationships takes a lot of work to survive.  And then she said that age-old line that “men by nature are polygamous“.  To which I disagreed – in part.

True, men by nature are polygamous.  But, it is not only men that are polygamous.  We all are.  Though there are many who prefers being alone, we still need people to survive.  “No man is an island” as the saying goes is true, as far as I am concerned.  We start out in a family, where parents and siblings and a whole lot of levels of kinship are there to support (in their own way) us no matter what.  We go to schools to gain knowledge and socialize.  We go to work to earn a living, and meet up with colleagues.  We have friends in between.  People thrive in a support group, whatever that group maybe, or we don’t live at all.  People, I believe, are polygamous in nature. Read the rest of this entry »

Love is not most important

28 01 2009

I can’t remember the exact moment or who I was discussing it when the idea of arranged marriages came up.  I think it was at work when an Indian colleague had to take a leave to meet his soon-to-be wife a few days before the ceremony.  I couldn’t comprehend how two people who met for the first time and wed the second time, to be married and stay married!  It was then that somebody mentioned that while the statistics of divorce, annulments and failed marriages continue to rise, arranged marriages tend to last longer than those who chose their own partners for marriage.   Unbelievable?  No, I don’t have the statistics to prove it, but somehow the logic is reasonable.  These people, who respected their family traditions, knew fully well that marriage needs work.  It is not about falling in love, and marrying because you love.  What happens when you fall out of love?  Marriage is not about love, it’s about commitment.   Love starts the relationship perhaps, but it’s the commitment that sustains it.  Love is just the cherry on top the cake called commitment.  And Bob Garon agrees.

The most important, most critical component in successful loving is commitment. Not love. It’s easy to love without commitment. People do it all the time—easy to love, to give of oneself for a while. But commitment implies bonding in such a way that one promises to keep the fires of love burning indefinitely. Read the rest of this entry »

Letting Go

8 01 2009

I’m learning…

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.
Remember:  The time to love is short.

I love my job!

5 01 2009

I had fun reading this :).  Well, somebody might have sensed my distraught and wanted me to laugh.  Just in time for the “back to work” season.


I love my job, I love the pay!  I love it more and more each day.
I love my boss, he is the best!  I love his boss, and all the rest.

I love my office and its location, I have to gave to go on vacation.
I love my furniture, drab and grey.  And piles of paper that grow each day! Read the rest of this entry »

One More Time

3 01 2009

Somebody said:

One more time: Live life.  Make a difference.  Touch one heart.  Encourage one mind.  Inspire one soul.

One more time… give another chance.  Live life… despite everything that has happened, inspite of anything that may happen… make the most of what is here now.  Make a Difference… despite the call to respect the status quo, inspite of society’s norm… stand up, stand out.  Touch one heart… despite a cold heart, inspite of the cold words… love, without expecting anything in return.  Encourage one mind… despite a close mind, inspite of closed eyes… stimulate.  Inspire one soul… start with mine.

NYR for 2009: Live the real meaning of life

1 01 2009

Keeping the new year’s resolution this year as simple as it can be – Live the real meaning of life.


Give more than you take.  Do your best to leave every situation better than you found it.  Seek beauty in all its forms.  Chase dreams.  Watch sunsets.  Endeavor to use more than 10 percent of your breain.  Don’t stifle your deep-from-the-gut, cleansing laughter.  Take a moment to ponder the enormity of the universe, then admit to yourself that you can’t possibly be th center.  Breathe deeply.  Swim into the dark water.  Let yourself cry when your body tells you to.  Love more.  Delight in silliness.  Don’t be bitter.  Forgive.  Forgive.  Forgive.

Sounds simple?  I’ll try to do my best – that’s all I can promise.